The Cycle | March 21, 2013
>>> stop me if you've heard this story before. a single parent with three kids trying to get by. trying to balance raising children with work and still save some semblance of a personal life . she sounds cool, doesn't she? well, she is a he.
>> i've raised him by myself for a while before i married beth.
>> we all know it. you're amazing.
>> here's the difference. his sense of humor changed. like when he got dressed for halloweenering got dressed as ninja. i said as he ninjew because we're jewish. he didn't throw arrest the, he threw a star of david. when he went to kindergarten, he said i'm a ninjew. and he was throwing his star of david.
>> that's josh wolf , a regular on chelsea lately who raised three kids and a st. bernard in a one-room apartment while working as a stand-up comedian. from nationwide tours to national tv , he lived the true american dream growing up to be the hero in his own room. he shares tips on how to raise kids based on reality and he is here with us at the table.
>> that guy sounds amazing. whoever you are referring to, i want to meet him, too.
>> i don't want to offend right off the bat but women have been doing this for years.
>> what makes you so special?
>> well, here's the thing. nothing! that's the point. the point is that there is always this thought that men can't do it.
>> true story .
>> right. so we may do it a little more, a little differently but we still do it. like i don't take this standard things as seriously. that ninjew example is perk. i'm very honest. i don't coddle as much. when my son was like i would like to play professional basketball , i said that's not going to happen. like we're jews. you can own a basketball team but you're not going to play on one.
>> playing it straight .
>> i'm a little more honest.
>> so my husband tells me that when he takes our daughter out into the world, that people are extra super nice to him and they try to help him. especially when he travels with her. i think they feel bad for him or they feel like he cannot do it on his own. do you have that same experience?
>> it was the worst. they just assumed because i was a guy at the park that i didn't know what i was doing. i would have older women come up to me and say, you know, your son needs some water. so you're saying like kids are like other human beings ? like they need liquid or they'll die? that is a great note. thank you. i'm going on take that note -- sometimes i will say, sometimes i did play dumb because when you're a single guy and you have three kids, meeting women isn't always the easiest thing. sometime i would play dumb just to try to --
>> this is like the guy with a dog thing.
>> taking puppy to the beach.
>> the kids at the playground.
>> what i found was, girls my age didn't want to go out with me. so i had to readjust and i started focusing on nannies. nannies were the best. they had big nice houses that were empty. refrigerators full of food.
>> i'm glad you said houses.
>> and big beds. it was crazy. it was like an hourly hotel that i could actually go to. it was pretty good.
>> don't be uncomfortable.
>> did they like being referred to as girls? when they're your age?
>> who is that?
>> the women you're talking about.
>> no, they don't. generally not good. but again, see, i'm not too good with doing things doing thinks politically correct.
>> what is the best sort of date? if you're in this space and a little older and you have a kid, is there a different type of dating you do, and different sort of dream date?
>> a dream date was just one that ended with me laying next to a woman. i mean, that was.
>> gettin' some.
>> at some point you are with kids all day every day. you just want to be with somebody who can complete a sentence, you know what i mean ? that was the dream date, that there actually was one. you know, it's not easy to find one-on-one time, because i lived in one bedroom with three kids and a st. bernard. it's not easy to convince a woman to have sex with you in a minivan -- i don't know if you know that --
>> the story keeps getting better.
>> you have to broaden your haydn. we did picnics at night, we did hiking.
>> picnics at night?
>> with a strange guy, probably not.
>> here's why i'm making $ 1200 a month maybe, so i can't really afford -- the kids are eating three meals a day, but maybe i'm eating one. so i still want to go out and be with women, but i can't spend any money on them.
>> that's when you get creative, right, tourre?
>> i'm crying for you --
>> don't cry, man.
>> but within the dating trajectory, you've had that good date where you end up the same way we all want to end up, with a woman. at what point in the dating trajectory, one month, two months, six months, whatever, do you want to start introducing your kids and maybe meeting her kids? when is the right time for you to bring her into your dojo?
>> great question. the only woman that ever met my kids was the woman i married. if a woman said i want you to meet my son, that means you're looking for a daddy. that's not me. i'm not trieding to add the brady bunch into this situation. the only person i ever introduced to my kids, i knew i was going to marry.
>> do you think that was the right move? wait --
>> how long -- i knew i was going to marry her about 7 months in.
>> i found when i walked around with my son, especially when he was little, people would look at you like my god, you are the greatest person ever, you are taking care of your child. i'm like, this is what i was supposed to do. even if i didn't have the sweater on right, they would be my goodness, we get extra points .
>> as a father you get extra points just for doing what you're supposed to do. it's frustrating for you, right?
>> a little bit.
>> so your child walks and talks? that's amazing. we get credit for things we're supposed to do.
>> josh wolfe, thanks for joining us.
>> thank you for having me.
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